Maintaining an active social life can really help you find a date. It may not seem like an incredibly effect method, but you’d be surprised how big of an effect it can have. To clarify, I want to state that your social life should have plenty of normal friends who you actually like to be around. Don’t get caught up thinking about wingmen or “in” groups. Just have a good group of people that you like.

This helps in a few ways. The first is that the dating world is often very cruel to newcomers. If you try to pick someone up at a popular place you can easily be drowned out by the regulars with game that you won’t be able to match. Besides, this is an ineffective way to find a date you’ll really like. You’ll be following a scattershot method of random guessing based purely on the way that they’re acting that night. It won’t work in the long run.

If you really want to find a good date you will need to have an active social life. This is ideal because you will naturally meet new people through your existing friends, who will probably introduce you to people with similar interests. This makes dating go a lot smoother since you shouldn’t have to constantly dig for topics to avoid awkwardness.